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Songs to Markus

 

These two songs I wrote for my husband when I first met him.

 

https://www.dropbox.com/s/0wisc0pl62hjzvw/Song%20to%20Markus%20dl.MOV?dl=0

https://www.dropbox.com/s/0w0dq3ucz3hs9ma/Darling%20I%20think%20I%20love%20you.MOV?dl=0

We did not invent the wheel

One day when we were traveling in the Northern Territory  in the East Alligator Region of Kakadu, I visited the Ubirr Art Gallery.  It is not an ordinary Art Gallery.  It consists of a group of rock outcrops on the Nadab Floodplain where there are several natural rock shelters that have a collection of Aboriginal rock paintings some of which are several thousands of years old.

It was there I met Wayne, a young aboriginal boy, who was guiding a party of tourists through the park.  Wayne talked so exuberantly about the art that I couldn’t resist asking if I could join the party and offered to pay.  He was only too happy for me to come along but wouldn’t accept any payment.  I wrote this poem for Wayne.

We did not invent the wheel

We had to be content to travel by foot

But still managed to cover long distances

Through rugged lands in scorching temperatures

By walking in the early mornings and avoiding the heat of the day

 

We did not invent the telephone

But we know how to communicate with nature, the earth, the sky, the wind, the sun and the moon

And we can express ourselves in community with each other

And send messages to faraway places

 

We did not invent the aeroplane

But in our minds we often fly to other places and times

When we are walking along collecting our food for the day, fishing and hunting

Sometimes we can look down at ourselves from the sky

 

We did not invent the computer

But we have our ways of storing knowledge and passing it on through the generations

By the stories that our art communicates on rock faces

And the explanation of our laws which old men tell by the campfire

Or when they show the young boys how to fish and hunt

 

We did not invent the watch

Because for us time does not exist

And has no relevance to how we live

For it is the season that dictates what eat, where we sleep

And whether we stay or move on

And the sun and the moon who tell us when it is time to wake or sleep

 

We did not invent money

Because in our culture we share what we have with each other

With our family and our tribe

So we have no need for it

 

We did not know about a lot of things

But we have always known how to think outside the square

And look at things in other ways

We often see a different picture of how things are

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PEDRO RODRIGUEZ-FUERTES- 26/03/33 to 11/06/2020

It is more than 40 years since I’ve seen Pedro.   He rings from downstairs in the hotel lobby just as I’m about to go down for breakfast.  I’m not at my best – not having yet had my shower and washed my hair which is in dire need of it. Fortunately I have my hat on. I have definitely been caught out. One would certainly prefer to present oneself at their optimum in these circumstances.  Pedro oscilates between being charming, vital, engaging and off with the fairies.  He insists that we all go to the Cathedral Museum to see his painting and have our photos taken in front of it – all three of us – as requested by Alex.

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Excerpt from “A Spanish Love Affair:

When I wake up, for the first few moments, I feel totally disoriented until I turn my gaze to the other side of the bed and look at Pedro.  He is still fast asleep. His skin is glowing in the early morning light, his hair glistens and his eyelashes, which are thick and lush, are resting languidly on his cheek.  He is a perfect specimen in the looks department, I decide after  giving him another careful examination.  I feel my heart beating a my eyes linger on his face and body.  I still fell such a strong attraction to him, my whole body feels alive when I’m close to him –  I feel like I’m going to burst.

But what am I going to do about the sex part?

My favourite photos

 

The southern part of Western Australia is beautiful.  There are so many natural wonders.

 

These photos are from a permanent exhibition at the sculpture park behind the Visitors’ Centre at Northcliffe “Out of the Ashes” created after a huge bushfire in 2017.

Some of my favourite trees from Walpole.

Green pool and elephant rocks in Denmark.

And my favourite place – Margaret River.

WHY YOUR KIDS SHOULD PLAY TENNIS

I played on the tour between 1967 and 1973. When I first went to England, where all the tennis was played in those days, we played in the tournaments as amateurs. There was no prize money. We only received our train fares between tournaments calculated to the penny and were billeted with local families who provided lunch and dinner. We ate lunch at the club.

After a few years they changed us from amateurs to registered players and introduced a small amount of prize money, usually only for the winners of the tournament. I remember I won 10 pounds for winning the tournament at Tourquay. It was a mammoth effort. It was a grass tournament initially, then it changed to loam after rain. It kept raining and we were transferred to cement courts. After still more rain I ended up playing the final indoors on wood at the Palace Hotel beating Judy Congden 14 – 12 in the third.

During my 6 year career I won 30 singles tournaments and 25 doubles tournaments. My total prize money was $5,000 most of which I won at one of the last tournaments I played in at Barcelona. We were now professionals.   This is equivalent of $37,500 in today’s money.

What a difference it is today. First round losers in the Australian will receive $90,000.

However, I do not feel hard done by or that my career in tennis was a total loss. I learned so much from playing tennis which certainly has proved invaluable during my life, in my career in real estate and other activities I’ve undertaken. I ended up starting my own business which I ran successfully for over 30 years and was in the top 10% in sales in Australia, I wrote “A Spanish Love Affair”, speak Spanish and can sing and play the guitar.

THE BASICS

  1. Racket back. As soon as you see the ball and decide which side it’s going to early preparation is essential.   Whatever you undertake, early preparation is absolutely necessary.
  2. As is Follow through – If you don’t follow through with your strokes in tennis, the ball goes all over the place. In real estate it definitely applies. I was always surprised when I rang back people who had been through an open inspection to see what they thought about the property, when they told me I was the first agent who ever called them back.
  3. Hit the ball at the top of the bounce. This a great lesson about procrastination. In tennis the ball actually stands still at the top of the bounce so it’s easier to hit although many of the top players hit the ball these days on the way up. If, however you leave it until the ball is on the way down it is much harder as the ball is going twice as fast.
  4. Practice makes perfect – To become a reasonably good tennis player requires practise. My brother, John and I practised before school and after school until it got dark. Learning about practice was a great staple for all other areas of my life and skills I wanted to develop. Learning the guitar and singing, public speaking and learning to speak other languages and writing my Memoir “A Spanish Love Affair”, to name a few.
As a former girl guide I am prepared for when the neighbours read “A Spanish Love Affair”.

SOCIAL

  1. Tennis gives you the ability to relate and communicate with all kinds of different people. Tennis players come in all different colours, may have different politics and creeds, be from a different social strata, speak a different language but on the court we are tennis players. I noticed racism didn’t exist among tennis players on the tour. It was whether someone has a great serve and you just have to try and get it back into play or a poor backhand which you are going to hammer especially on tight points, that counts.
  2. Tennis is played by both sexes and is very helpful for learning to interact with both genders.
  3. Relationships with your tennis partner definitely teaches communication and the ability to give and take.
  4. Mixed doubles is especially helpful especially if you don’t have brothers and/or sisters.
  5. You can turn up at a tennis court anywhere in the world, if you can play a reasonable game of tennis and be accepted.
  6. It’s fun

LIFE LESSONS

  1. PERSISTENCE Probably the best lesson I learnt from tennis is persistence – to never give up until the last point. You never know when the game can change. The recent Federer v Millman match comes to mind.
  2. THINK ON YOUR FEET – You’re on your own on the singles court especially in the early days of playing so you have to work out your own tactics.
  1. STICK TO A WINNING GAME – If something is working for you stick with it. There’s absolutely no reason to change.

4.CHANGE A LOSING GAME – If you’re losing it’s another story. You’ve got to make a change.

You also may have to change a stroke or your grip in order to improve your game.

  1. CHANGE The process of change is exactly the same in other areas of your life and having gone through it in tennis is a great precursor. Changing something is never easy. I remember changing my backhand. At one stage I couldn’t hit the old one nor the new one. Just like in life.
  2. COURAGE AND SELF RELIANCE I’ve learnt both of these playing tennis matches.
  3. TURNING UP ON TIME – If you’re late for a match you are forfeited.
  4. QUICK REACTIONS especially at the net.
  5. CHARACTER BUILDING – We all lose in life. Learning to lose is a great life lesson. Learning a lesson from a loss and making changes so it won’t happen again. To quote Barty after her match with Kvitova today.
  6. LEARNING TO DEAL WITH LIFE’S UPS AND DOWNS Some days the ball is like a pumpkin and other days it’s like a pin head. Learning to roll with the punches, to adapt and make the best out of those off days is a great life skill.
  7. SELF ESTEEM Becoming competent at playing tennis is great for your self esteem. When I was sexually abused by my tennis coach when I was 11, I felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me. My life fell apart. I lost all confidence in my self. I struggled with my emotional life all through my teens as a result. Tennis was always there steady in the background and undoubtedly helped pull me through.

 

HEALTH BENEFITS

  1. Improves your metabolic function. Depending on your weight playing doubles burns between 288 to 365 calories an hour and singles burns between 414 and 524 calories per hour. Exercise is great for counteracting the obesity crisis.
  2. Increases aerobic capacity
  3. Lowers resting heart rate and blood pressure
  4. Increases bone density
  5. Lowers body fat
  6. Improves muscle tone, strength and flexibility

 

  1. Tennis requires you to be creative and it involves planning, tactical thinking, agility and the coordination of different parts of the body. Aerobic workout like tennis are especially good for improving your mood.
  2. Research on depression, anxiety and exercise shows that the psychological and physical benefits of exercise can help improve mood and reduce anxiety.

AND BEST OF ALL

  1. People who regularly play tennis have the longest live expectancy compared with people who do other activities such as jogging, swimming or bicycling. Tennis players live an average of 9.7 years longer than people who don’t do any exercise. (Copenhagen City Heart Study) Feb 20 2019.